It is very difficult to tell
someone that what they are doing may not be what’s best for their child. Many
parents assume that since it is their child they are automatically making the
right decisions. This may or may not be the case. The parents of deaf children “have
to make decisions based on their knowledge (which may be scanty or
nonexistent), their desire to learn, their own prejudices, expectations,
concepts of ‘normality,’ and instincts” (pg. 283). I think that many parents
don’t choose sign language because they either don’t know much about it, or don’t
want to take the time to learn it. In that case I think that they think they
are choosing the easier route for their child. By getting cochlear implants and
practicing oralism, they think it will be easier for them to communicate to
their child and for their child to be successful in the hearing world.
It is important to remember, as the authors
pointed out, that “what is ‘best’ for one child-or family-may not be ‘best’ for
another” (pg. 284). That is something that the parents of deaf children need to
keep in mind. Just because they hear success stories from what other parents
did they still need to consider the needs of their own child and what will
benefit them the most. It may be hard for some parents to make the decision
since many parents “want to be the ones to personally teach them, guide them,
transmit ethical values, religious faith, and family traditions, monitor their
progress every day, and tuck them into bed each night” (pg. 284). The idea of
someone else teaching their child to communicate and even teaching them a new
form of communication, is hard for them because they are not in control.
It breaks my heart to read that “too many
parents never learn to communicate with their deaf children” (pg. 285). I think
that is very selfish on the parent’s part and I agree that it proves that the
parents aren’t acting in the best interest of the child (pg. 286). The authors
sum this chapter up well by saying that a parent would truly be thinking about
the wellbeing of their child if “they seek a better understanding of their
child-and themselves” (pg. 286).
Deaf Awareness 5-Minute Quiz:
I felt
really confident taking the quiz. I thought it really highlighted the key
concepts from chapters 31-46. I didn’t miss any, which makes me feel that I understand
the material from these chapters.
I agree totally with you. It is SO sad that some parents do not put in the effort to learn how to communicate with their deaf children. It really makes me angry to even think about it, actually.
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